My wife and I have been together 8 years, married 7, happiest times of my life (or so I thought). Then I found out she had an affair with my"best friend", and moved out for six months, leaving me with our 2year old daughter. When that went pear shaped she came back, sorry for the mistake and we were going to make it work, but of course it had been my fault for driving her to him as I wasn't giving her the love and attention she deserves.

Then she went to South Africa to get her son and stayed 3 months and had another affair with some guy down there, 'cause again I'd been negleting her needs,

This blogging seems to be very therapeutic. I was really encouraged by the three replies to my first blog, SOMEONE OUT THERE CARES. I would like to reply to the people who commented below

 Marriaa

Thanks for the comments, I am sure that you are correct in that the emotions one experiences come in different orders for different people, sorry to hear that you are having to cope with loss at the moment, loss is a difficult emotion to deal with as there does not appear any way to channel the emotion into something / somewhere positive. I will certainly join chat, although I often have difficulties

Firstly I would like to say this blogging is great, I can not believe how much I change day to day.

After ten years I found out the lady I thought I knew so well was having an affair. Now I know everyone will say this but she really was not the type, I have asked her who her new fellow is and she has told me lie after lie. For example she told that he was 30, divorsed and had two kids then on Monday she said that none of this was true and she will not even tell me his real age.

Now my ex was never much of a talker she was quite shy, the way I found out that she was having an afair was that