So...today is a milestone. I'm five weeks into this crap. Five weeks ago I was sat behind this computer in my office...struggling to get some sort of work done...focusing for five or ten minutes at a time to answer the odd "important" (to someone but not me) e-mail, only to find my mind drawn back into all these thoughts and emotions. I know...it's nothing. Five weeks is a drop in the ocean and I have a long way to go. But I have to look back at the tiddly widdly stretch I've covered and take it in. So what's CHANGED in five weeks? (1) My wife has begun/continued her affair and it has

I have not "blogged" for some time...been abusing the forum space instead. It's one of those blogs without a purpose aside from cathartic rambling...it's one of the only things that keeps me sane right now. OK...so the situation. Well, she's still here until the new flat comes off (two more weeks perhaps - she has nowhere to go and I will not kick her out - it's her flat too). We live in a 2 bed flat - which makes it hard to ensure complete avoidance of each other. Our agreement is that we'll keep out of each other's way in the days - as far as possible - and she'll stay with her friend in

the long awaited letter from the court arrived today .... they need a statement to support the change of tenancy application! ( trying to do all this without legal representation is a pain in the backside!! ) The statement will be in the post first thing in the morning , no point me taking it into the court ,it wont be dealt with till early next week . other than that im still alive , it would be nice to say that im making progress , but that is still away off yet. my wife has moved forward ,to the point that her boyfriend now parks out front on a daily basis to pick her up - as i said to