I have finally done it.  Been to see a solicitor.  The letter came through this morning with the copy sent to him.  It only asks that he pay me half the mortgage until the house is sold and that he not enter the house while I am not here.  Also that he attends mediation to sort out the money.

 I feel like poo and am so sad it has come to this.  28years of my life has been destroyed.  I tried to so hard to make it

In replying to a blog today it reminded me of the letters I wrote to my stbx which I never sent.  I found the emotional stages in a book and they were stated as being;

 SHOCK, ANGER, PAIN, HATRED, GRIEVING, HEALING

The letter idea was from the healing stage - a letter to your partner expressing some of the emotions you have experienced. Should be written, not to be actually sent. Imagine that everything you write is heard and understood the way you want it to be. 

ie.I feel angry because ...... I feel so angry when ...... I don't like ...... I wish ..... I feel sad because ..... I feel afraid

Have just found out that my Decree Nisi is set for early September.  Receiving the solicitor's letter was yet another 'blow' in this long and painful process.  Although I knew the Decree Nisi would come, it still felt like a shock to actually read the words.  The letter said that my husband is entitled to a divorce on the grounds of 'unreasonable behaviour' which, even after 8 months into the process, I find deeply hurtful and ironic.  (In different circumstances, I could have brought a divorce against my husband for unreasonable behaviour that I have tolerated for years.  I could not have