So just got off the phone speaking to the x2b explaining that it was slightly unreasonable to expect for me to pay all the court fees and 50% of her costs - especially when it is her that has had the affair.

So I tell her that my Solictor is contacting her's to say that we either agree on 50% costs and each to their own on Solicitors fees or we notify the court that we dispute the costs.

1/2 a day in court and additional fees etc, but I need to get off my knees at some stage. 

So I politely requested she contact her solicitor to instruct her regarding what is the right thing to do.

Shame that we

So today was a wonderful day in Holland, good day at work and all that.

The last few days were tricky last week as xtb is seeking for me to pay the court fees along with 50% of her costs.  Whilst I have behaved reasonably it strikes me as a bit much to expect to pay such amounts when it was her having the affair.

So I made an offer to her saying I would not defend based on her affair and let the UB go through....

I did not tell the kids about her affair to protect her..

And now...

I am getting ..... what is the word.... and it is only round 1.

I hope one day she realises what she has done...

i have never done anything like this before so i will apologise now before i start. On thursday 7Aug it will be 1 year since i kicked my now x husband out for having yet another affair. And to say its been a horrible year is a huge understatement. On friday 8 August i bury my mum, my best friend, my strength, my support for the past 12 months .  I also found out that my x never had his x girlfriends name taken off the mortgage, which means i cant buy him out. The house is falling apart and he wont help pay for repairs.  He hasnt paid my fees yet or seen his solicitor since January . So he