Ok not going to write much tonight as it is getting late and have to be up  usual in the morning.

I haven't written on here for a few days, mainly because I have been so busy doing various things with the kids, watching the Saints stay in the Championship, being ill (STRESS!!) and trying to keep busy ahead of the FDR.

Well the hearing was yesterday.  As I expected he still hasn't produced his financial details, nor did he bother to complete the financial questionnaire which I had compiled.  He tried to blame me saying that I had destroyed paper work (totally not true) and because of his

It's tough to be a single man having had to fight to be able to get married and then fight to get divorced.

The marriage

I'm a 20-something Londoner and I got married to a lady from Lahore, Pakistan in 2006 after we'd met in quite random circumstances. At the time, we were in love and my family and friends were deeply supportive of my relationship. The distance was the biggest problem and so I had to fly all my family to Pakistan so that I could get married in accordance with custom.

After having to spend thousands on the wedding and then another couple of grand to bring my wife to the UK

On the 1^st of February I knew deep down my wife was having an affair but the hope, dream, that I was wrong tore me apart until she confessed on the 7^th March.

Since then it's been a rollercoaster of emotion and pain. Sometimes, I've done well other times I haven't. As I write this I'm in one of the bad times.

We are both in our forties. I think when you get over 40 at some point something inside you realizes that in terms of your life there's more behind you than ahead of you. This triggers a mid life crisis, you are as healthy and well as you can ever hope to be and you question your life