Ok, So things have got worse if that is possible,

The letter sent nearly a month ago requesting reconciliation has not been responded to. I now need to do something with the courts.

Defend, or defend and cross petition for her affair. It will be a complete breakdown if I do this, why is it that she has the upper hand and no matter what I am going to get stuffed. I need to be able to look myself in the mirror and face my kids - knowing that I tried everything... What to do?

She is not talking or discussing anything, my solicitor thinks that they are waiting and will file for a decree if

Is this another stage, I wonder? After seven months apart, and I must say I have not missed him or all the arguments, he is not communicating at all. This has been eleven days now. We argued on the phone, the first spoken conversation we have had for some time. I am supposed to sign some mortgage refinancing documents. He should be supporting me, financially, and has refused. I am not trying to be awkward, I just find it very hard to trust him. I need legal advice; that costs money, because I want my solicitor to be aware of what's going on, and I am paying her by the hour after my

Well, saw my solicitor yesterday after 2 cancelled appointments on her behalf.

 After looking at the situation, it appears we are right back at the beginning again all barr the decree absolute.

Can't remember whether she said she would give my ex one final warning to leave me alone or go straight for an application to extend the injunction; can't see the point in yet another warning which will evidently fall on deaf ears (just like the last dozen or so and the court undertaking). So am going to email her later and ask her to just apply as the current one runs out on 3rd August and there are 2