We have all read the articles charming men make dangerous lovers,I was always of an opinion this always happened to other women until it happened to me .I met such a man in 1995,my mother died in 1993 of breast cancer and I was going through a rough patch as a single parent bringing up my oldest son ,who was 14 years old. Some days I could not see the computer screen on the till for crying over my teenage son. so it is little wonder that I did not see this con -man coming in my direction.

This was a quiet divorced man well dressed very well groomed. I worked as a barmaid in a pub in the

My ex has been arrested and got bail condition after what he has done to me.He got injunction by the County Court ,our case is still on.By the wy He is at Magistrate Court,I got invitation letter to attent the court to give evidence.H edenied and what he has done and doesnt accept he is guilty.I did not lie and I was almost forget the past ...Now I cant sleep to think whats going to happen at the court?His solicitor is going to ask me so many questions to put me in trouble and lies and I dont know how can I stand with keep calm during the cross examination?

I wish him find a guilty,the problem

Those of you have seen my posts on the site will know that I am a great believer in fairness .. and of getting things sorted without spending a fortune on lawyers. I hope the following story will help you to understand why.

A few facts before we start:

Separated Oct 2004.

Divorce petition Jan 2007

Lodged my Form E with court May 2007

Decree Nisi May 2007.

His Form E end Aug 2007

FDR March 2008

FH Aug 2008.

FMH equity 210k

Endowment 52k (was 43k)

My CETV 86k

His CETV 184k (but pension due Oct 08 – lump sum 92k, pension 9k pa)

Me 47, him 59.

3 kids 18 (just) 16 and 12.

A week or so on from Final