Thanks to all who commented on my last blog. This morning I spoke to my solicitor before she jets off to Hawaii & California for a month''''s holiday (now, how on earth can she afford that, I wonder ???) Well, I''''ve decided to ''''fight'''' i.e. not give in so easily to his demands. Even though he has threatened to cross-petition me (!!!) she said that''''s ridiculous and has given him ''''til June 1st to return the petition to court or she will file a ''''deemed service'''', whatever that means. (This is ready to go in her absence.) With regards to the house, she has advised me at our

Hi I am trying to divrce my husband after finally plucking up the courage. He vowed to put every obstacle in my way and seems to be doing a pretty good job. He has paid into a local govt. pension for 35yrs. I paid into a local govt pension full time for 6yrs and part time for 8. We both have our CTVs and obviously my husband''''''''''''''''s is lmuch larger than mine. His solicitor has advised him to get a pension actuary''''''''''''''''s report. I don''''''''''''''''t really understand why. Can anyone help? I''''''''''''''''d really appreciate it. A.

Hello, I am new to this and in a bit of a state. I have been separated for two and i half years and in the final stages of divorce, I left my husband after 19yrs of marriage as i was in a very loveless marriage and may as well have been on my own. He got me to sign a deed of separation in the early days and stupidly i signed without any legal advice. I wasnt in a very good place emotionally at the time and accepted a payout from him of half the houses worth. I agreed not to touch his pension and would take the endowment which he would continue to pay premiums for(£22) month and at the end