Ok the pain is there, it is real but to move forward I must experience it.  He is not worth what I myself have put myself through.  I must come first at the moment.  Baby steps!  I deserve to be treated better.

Thanks to all

I've had the somewhat humiliating experience today of going into the jobcentre first thing,  to start all over again with benefits claims, since giving up my job in July.   I couldn't cope any more with the stress, and my stbe (a  lot sooner than it might have been if he had been nicer) will not support me even though he knows I am not fit to work.  He can well afford it; he just doesn't think he should. His answer is of course for me to go home and to try again. 

Not in this century, buddy, not unless you get a complete makeover.  Which you won't, because you are always too busy, which was

Hi all,

Update on my situation. Yesterday I went over to see his parents. He wasn't there, it was a lovely day so no doubt he was wandering around hand in hand with my replacement somewhere. I took over the post that has arrived for him over the past couple of weeks, and copies of photographs I had taken at the last family occasion we had attended together, his nephew's christening at the end of August. It was a tough visit, his parents are very upset, and can't understand why he has done this, when we seemed to have everything going for us. They have told him that he will end up alone if he