It is so unfair. How can I stop him having financial control over me?

Once again, he has failed to pay my Child Maintenance on time. My mortgage is due tomorrow and still the CSA have not received his money. I could shift some money around; although even this is  getting hard to do as my reserve tank that is there to pay my solicitor's bill for the transfer of property is being "borrowed" left, right and centre.

Thing is, he has NOT paid before; not just a late payment but NOT paid. So I would be leaving myself wide open and then not having money to feed the children for the month if this is

I feel sick - my head is pounding and most of all I never thought, he would do this to his children. Today I check my bank balance and have had to phone the csa. Why? because the payment was missing and my mortgage is due to be paid monday. After two phone calls I discover the reason the payment was missing because my ex, has given up work to claim benefits. Im paying the mortgage and without the csa payment, Im going to struggle - I think he has done this in order to force me to sell. I don't know whether or not I my head is going to explode or I want to be sick first and god only knows

Why does he keep doing this to me?

Checked my bank account today, no sign of monthly CSA payment, so I ring them and they say he hasn't paid and that they will chase it up. My mortgage payment is due on Monday and I am dreading having to phone them to say once again I can't pay because I am beholden to my ex-husband to make up a large amount of the mortgage payment. Without the money from the CSA it is a case of pay the mortgage or feed the children for the month.

It really is that simple!

He has contact with the children on Friday. Will he mention not paying, I doubt it and I won't because we