They tell me that the day you decide to divorce is the first day of the rest of your life - wrong, wrong, wrong and when it comes im going to celebrate with bells whistles fireworks and champagne. To say I have been waiting for 'the' day for sometime is an understatement, I have been waiting for it since Aug 30th 2006 - why this date, because this is the date i caught my husband with my friend in my mothers garden!! and the slope started and it was meant to go up but since in reality its gone down and down and i've even hit a few milestones since then,

first off losing a few friends (since

Arrived for my course this morning feeling fairly subdued, not really wanting to face the reality of what staying in an abusive relationship has done to my children.

The first thing that was said is that we cannot blame ourselves for the effect all of this has had on  our children because whilst we were with our abuser we had no power to protect them.

That goes against everything a mother stands for; the one thing above all else that she should be able to do is protect her babies. But you don't expect to have to protect them from the only other person that is truly part of them.

It was also said

Felt I had to share this one !

My son has received 8 cousellin sessions really benefited from them all. Tonight we chatted as we do most nights but this was different some how. He said that he finally realised that his dad puts himself before his children and thats y he was so upset since we split.

He said talking to me 2night was a revelation. Like I had lifted a huge weight off his shoulders. For weeks Ive tried so hard to take his pain away and now he has moved on so can I.