Why do I stay? What could be wrong woth me so bad that I let a man hold me down for 14 years? He lies, cheats and Drinks.... and I accept it. We are always without decent funds although he makes decent money. I know I don't spend it I sometimes don't leave my house for weeks or more. Not because he won't allow it but because i'm so depressed I don't want to. He doesn't physically abuse me but does hold our son over me, if I leave with him he will call the police for kidnapping. His family actually apologizes to me for his behavior, somewhat encourages me to leave. I took care of his sister

Back and forth back and forth. I have been seperated for 6 months now. She has pulled me back and forth, I feel as if I am an emotional yo-yo. I like to write, so I have sent some pretty interesting emails and texts, but I think it just puts even more distance becasue I am a bit more emotional than her. She writes bland no-commital stuff, that I get to imagine and intepret to my biggest fears and wildest wonderful outcomes. In a matter of 30 seconds she told me she had indeed begun a new relationship but was not sure she wanted a divorce. How do you settle that in your mind? She is a kind

I can vaguely remember having a life. I went to college, had good friends, and I was happy. We played pool, I wore make up, and I didn't have a husband. I had my daughter, I lived with my mother, we were OK. I went to college, I got my degree, my hair was styled, my nails were manicured, my clothes were nice, I had a cute car. I was me.

Now? Not so much. I sit in a nice house and wax lyrical about how I could've been someone. I am an educated woman and I feel so stiffled.

After the past days events I loathe my husband. He abuses me for being unemployed and yet he was the one who pressured me to