I have been a bit pro active today going to estate agents,organising one to come to value the house,signed documents,delivered paperwork to solicitors and finding out what was the price of a 2 bed house in my area....I have had no dealings with my wife,since I had suggested joint custody for my daughter...It does not seem to be in my wifes plans.But it is now in mine and for my daughters sake.It can only be better for her as she will have a more balanced view of life.My wife is very strong willed. And normally gets her way.

No rash today, I must be doing something right.

Alan

Well,I suppose I should keep one, it might come in use.

I've read a couple of other peeps blogs on here, and some of the tales are simply heartbreaking - I do sometimes wonder if such abusive people can really exist, and also feel awed at the charity and forgiveness their victims are capable of expressing despite their horrendous experiences.

Thankfully my tale is not so dark. For those interested in the reader's digest version:

met.

got drunk. alot.

got engaged.

got married.

got mortgaged.

got child.

she got annoyed with my 'negligence'.

i got annoyed with her whining.

got bigger mortgage.

headed

i guess it was bound to happen sooner or later, but when it does it dont make it any easier. You see my STBX and her BF are trying to play happy families with his boys and scott my son, all along so far they have not wanted to be with their dad when she has been around. However that has changed and they will now stay at his place when she is there. Now one of the boys was my sons best friend untill all this happened, but they are in the same class at school and still play with each other, and he has stayed with me on numerous occasions- no problem there. However i am in bloody germany and