Hi all, missing you and wiki.

Been a bad few days so this by my standards is a short blog but more will follow.

The financal offers on the table and meets her requirement without getting really nastie, now she won't make her mind up?

What do I do next?

The sticking point I think is that I have told her I will not back down about fair access to the kids and told her we can either come to an adult agreement or it's the courts.

Is there any way that a working dad would ever get parental control of the kids? I don't think so! But just to let you know I won't be taking up dressing as batman and

Have spoken to some very useful and helpful people today about my situation and my stbx.

I am now giving serious consideration to seeking residency of the children with me. A lot of people consider her behaviour to be far from normal or healthy for the children and her level of care over the last couple of years has been poor to say the least.

To date I have taken the view that I will try and rock the boat as little as possible but I now realise that this may not be in the childrens best interest. Until it is too late we all have no idea what will happen to children as a result of separation

I picked my girls (10 and 8) up from school yesterday after being with their dad for 4 days. They were really rude and stroppy, which really got to me.

When I told them off and explained how upset it made me feel, I got a bit upset. Then they told me that their dad had told them;

• Mum is too busy with her new boyf to see you a lot
• When you go to your grandparents its because Mum wants to go to see her boyf
• Her and her boyf want to move away and take you out of your schools

Girls are aware of new boyf (5 months I have been seeing him) I told elder one who is fine with it, STBX told younger one in a