No time to be on here at all really.  Grabbing time when possible but many people to ring tonight after the first Cafcass meeting today.

Meeting not so bad, stbx got very excitable, emotional and specific in her comments about me.   I could see the cafcass officer looking quite surprised at times and despite him trying to tell her what was required etc I am not sure she took it in.

 Anyway good comments that I took from it were that courts do not want to impose orders and prefer to approve personal arrangements - what I have been telling her since Feb.  They prefer joint arrangements if

Hi everyone,

I am feeling so confused and drained the last couple of weeks have been a nightmare for me - i just dont know what to do anymore my husband is insisting that he loves me and kids and wants to come home and i try desparately to make sense of everything that has happened but i just cant.   I mean why have an affair if you love your wife - is that even possible?    How can you be caught out three times having an affair with the same woman after your wife has given you two chances and then say you love your wife and want to come back?  Im sorry but i cannot understand it.

My husband

so my wife says she wants a change, a new life and it doesnt invole me..

total bombshell didnt see that one coming ,,,,,,,then befor we could sit down and talk things thro she tells our 11 year old that we are getting divorced. he rang me in tears and told me what his mum has told him, and i just wanted to end it there.... i couldnt face her and sat in a layby trying to think of what to do... at the time i thought i was to blame i was the one who had done wrong,, i thought of ending it right there. but i couldnt leave my son behind like that... the next few days where a blur, i went home from