Why am I still not able to just deal with this, and put it to rest?  It's been four years since the trouble really began.  I am at the point of divorcing him.  Something is stopping me.  Perhaps it's knowing that this is (usually) an irrevocable step. 

If he would just leave me to recover, and support me financially while I do so, he might, even now, be able to turn this around. 

I am so scared of saying this to him, because when I suggest improvements, he does a little, makes me think it will get better, then gets impatient when I don't quite trust him enough to just step back into the

I don't know quiet why I'm writing this, but a book that many on this site might find useful is "Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them," by Paul Hegstrom.  It's written by a man who was once an angry one, but who faced his own demons and eventually remarried the woman he had abused.  It took a great deal of trust on her part to even want to try again, but she saw that he had changed.

My husband wanted another chance, after he had pushed me beyond my limits.  There was no physical abuse till then, but plenty of the emotional and psychological kind, and a (to use his terms) "sh*t load" of

I have applied for the absolute but put the wrong payment on the cheque. E.Mailed court office to request it be returned for me to re-send. Hope that will be ok. I can't afford to pay twice! Why did I post it and THEN look at costs?

Anyway, Absolute stage is reached & consent order is being presented soon. All I need now is a miracle move into rented & I will be ready to begin again. ALONE! Well, except for my oldest girl who is coming to share the rent!!

I have got to get out of this 'still under the same roof' situation. He has gone along with everything I have asked & we are polite but