My husband wants to leave. I knew that - he'd mentioned it last week. He'd said then that he wanted to leave as it would help us reconcile. He'd mentioned earlier this week leaving to help him find himself. I had heard him - I just didn't get it. I don't exactly blame myself for that - I mean when leaving is mentioned in the same sentence as reconciling, who would know. And leaving to find himself, it's a bit vague. But Thursday night we talked, and I slowly realised that what he was actually talking about was leaving.

Separation, proper separation, has been on the table so long now, that I

Hi,

 I have been separated now for 18 months and am due for an FDR hearing in a couple of weeks. I am struggling to come up with a solution to meet my requirements and talk about not being able to see the wood for the trees!

Background - I am now 37 and have been unable to work for some time now due to Rheumatoid Arthritis and spinal problems. I am in receipt of Incapacity Benefit and DLA (low rate care, high rate mobility).

Marriage put me living 250 miles away from family and I now find that I am really struggling to cope alone, I don't need major help all the time but on those occasions that

Phew. Life has been a bit interesting. When I last wrote an entry, my husband had suggested that we sell the house and buy two smaller ones next to each other. I looked into it, and of course, as expected, there was no way that could be afforded. The idea was that if - or rather when - we ended the marriage, we sold up, and split the proceeds.

This would leave my husband with a nice deposit on his next place, but it would leave me in a difficult position. I work part time, so that I am available for the kids. Like most part time jobs, I am not well paid. I do not earn enough to have a