I have been out of the family home for a couple of weeks and she has had her new boyfriend (an ex from the past) in the house and around my children. She seems to think she can do anything to those children without consulting me first and expects me just to be very cool and calm about it all.

Its the lies i cant handle, when she says he has not been around them and then i find out from other friends he has as they have seen them all out together, playing happy families.

I know i have to just accept the fact that she is just being very devious and spiteful towards me as she knows how much i

Haven't seen him now since just before the Easter weekend & hope that he drops off the face of the Earth! Can't imagine why I wasted 28 years  of my life on  it. He asked me to divorce him as he had nothing on me, had moved out in his own flat with his work to keep him company, I agreed as I felt he was gone & had to move on for me & the kids. He's now living his batchelor life in London, has had 4 hols abroad since begining of 07, we have not been able to afford one.

 He has planned this from before day one & totaly manipulated the situation to what he thinks is his advantage. He has got my

Well, still no contact from b*****d about whether he can make it this weekend.

Because I know that I am more emotional at the weekend with less distractions available to me than at work, I like to have my plans and coping strategies in place. I have told a friend we will meet up but as yet haven't been able to make definite arrangements due to hanging around waiting for news from b******d.

Part of me wants to email him and say 'tough-not enough notice given of when you are coming, so I'm busy' and the other part wants to get it over with.

I know some of you readers have given me suggestions on