Hi, So here I am 6 months after my ex told me he was having an affair with one of my closest friends and that he was leaving me and the children for her.

Cold hard and to the point. Supposedly they had only consumated it 6 weeks before he leaves.

He walks out on 18 years of marriage and 24 years of a relationship. He leaves 2 children (and his dog!) with no guilt and the only comment being - there was a problem that needed solving so I have solved it!

So where has that left me?

I was devastated to begin with.

I petitioned for divorce in early July and made the mistake of naming her as a

Well...I haven't posted a blog entry in about a week, and so much has changed.

The e-mail in my previous blog simply merited a polite, "I got your e-mail - thank you." Guess it didn't quite have the effect I was hoping for. Can't say I didn't try.

We have since had further conversations about foreclosure on the house and finalizing things. I met with an attorney again to discuss options. I left feeling very good about my situation if things have to go to court.

The latest good news was that I received a job offer for a great new career in Las Vegas. After some pleasant chats and SMS

I have found myself over the past week or so thinking about the person that my STBX had/has been having an affair with....

I feel very little about this person.... I think I am supposed to feel anger/resentment/hatred for this person - but I don't...

I don't know this person.... I am curious about her....

I wonder why she would involve herself with someone who is married with a family......

Does she feel any 'guilt' about being 'involved' in the breakup of a family?

My STBX told our daughter that his affair had been 'going on' since 'the beginning of the year'..... he also told her that this