18 months ago my stbx hubby had a classic colleague affair after 10 years of marriage and two children. He left 'to sort his head out' ignoring my pathetic attempts to make him stay. He continued to see her for five months then decided he wanted to come back and 'save his family' (as you can imagine I was most impressed with him remembering us after 5 months).

So we 'tried to save our marriage'. We went to Relate, made an attempt to do all the things that we said were lacking. In between times I still did not feel that he 'loved' me as he still reeled off the faults I had that lead to his

Hi, This is my first time on Wikivorce and I was so heartened to find so many other people going through the same horrible experience as me and for everyone to be so supportive of each other.

I discovered that my husband of over 30 years, was having an affair just before Christmas, and decided that divorce was the only option. Our divorce is going OK and the Decree Nisi has already been issued. He has refused to move out of our home, and I cant afford to. The atmosphere is pretty terrible, especially as our daughter is living with us and he is really horrible to her, picking fights etc.

Now

What a week! This time last Saturday I thought I was happily married - but found out last Sunday that I am married to someone who is Unhappily married and who after a one night fling 3 months ago, has formed an ongoing "Textual" relationship with another man.

At first I thought I could copyright that phrase, but having looked on this site, I now realise I am not the first (or probably the last) to experience a partner who constantly is texting (on silent ) to supposed friends in work?

Probably should have seen it coming - but no point looking back. First fling she had was 9 years ago, 3