Well one Son has comleted exams so one to go then we can tell them both , stbx will leave and then onto next stage....or so I thought! After me letting "him" stay here for 5 months whilst our Sons revised (youngests first yr in sixth form and the eldest first year at Uni) he now announces he's going no where to we sell the house? Please can anyone tell me when I missed the news flash that God had died and stbx got the job!!!! I am at my wits end with him, has he not heard the news that houses are just not selling at the moment .Do I deserve this after all I've done for him letting him stay

The story so far;

I have always worked shifts, and my stbx has allways known that, and has gotten use to it. over the past 5 years i have been working away, first with the navy then with the railways, it was allways sadness when i'm gone and happyness upon returning. all that changed a few months ago, i was only getting calls on the phone if she wanted anything, or to complain that i was allways away, or that she needed more space??

on the third of april the penny dropped

I had been working away on west coast, my normal patch being the east, therefore had to lodge at lancaster, 2 weeks earlier I

I am often asked 'do you still love him?'

Do I still love him? Love who? A man who, since he started an affair years ago, lied to me, put me down constantly, never smiled to me. A man who never stood by me and never appreciated the support I lent him. Do I still love him?

He certainly does not deserve my love.

May be I am holding on to who he used to be. what I still hope he is. I still want to find hope in the man. Does this make me a romantic fool. or an eternal optimist?

I don't hate him. Not because he is the father of my children, nor is it because for me he was family for a very long