I feel utterly depressed and betrayed. My wife of  5 years told me last week that she is leaving me for another guy that she met online. Monday she left to be with him. I called her to see is she made it ok because i still desperatly love her and She said she was in his bed watching movies and I heard him in the background. I immediatly fealt like I wanted to die. To hear my the woman with whom I was planning on spending the rest of my life in bed with another man just devestated me soo much more. Ther are so many emotions that I am feeling all at the same time its making me sick. I have not

I woke up with a knot in my guts, thinking ‘how can he do this?' I haven't had that thought for a while.

I am not really over it. No way near that.

I cannot forgive him for the affair. I know that one day I will be passed this, but not yet. And it is not only the affair, it is also the way he came home every night and took his guilt out on me.

Knowing the extent of men's (and women's) ill treatment by their spouses and partners, I sometimes feel I've had it easy. He's not violent or abusive, in the conventional sense of the word. But then I think: are these my options? Am I supposed to count

I found my blue earrings. It may seem trivial to you, but to me it is very important. These are the earrings that signify the time I broke out; the time I decided I deserve better. The time I woke up to see that I am not what he says I am.

For a long time, while he was having the affair, he made me feel unattractive and unable. He later said it was the guilt talking! And even though he says it's not what he meant, he continually put me down. He turned me from a bubbly highly accomplished young woman to a timid defensive person (not woman) who kept apologising for things she should be proud