I've just been on to the Plenty Of Fish dating website and there was this banner ad for IllicitEncounters.com.

Drifting out of the cerise background came these seductive & powerful words

attached? under-appreciated? uninspired?

Come and feel the butterflies again...

Or...Get a f**king grip, stop dreaming and sort your marriage out, whether that's working at it, or ending it!

Expertly targeted, with those words pushing buttons, flicking switches and seducing people in to what is basically a Milf knocking shop. I wonder just how many players are signed up to that one then, with a ready supply of the

This last few weeks have seen a change in the way I see my situation. I am more than a year post seperation; nearly 6 months post Decree Absolute and less than a week away from would have been my 12 wedding anniversary.

I suffered greatly on the first anniversary apart. Trawling through wedding photos looking for signs that even then my now ex- husband didn't love me the way I thought.

I cried uncontrollably, wondering why he had put me through so much in our marriage. I have now accepted that there was never just me he was married to but that I shared my relationship with the curse of drink