I've moved out of the house. I could dwell on the negative, how my husband refused to enter the premises to sort his things out, how I spent days meticulously going through our possessions, packing my things and his, how he then refused to collect his crap and furniture so a friend had to help me dump it on his parent's driveway, how one of our cats ran away and the other got run over, how our daughter has turned into a madam,  how utterly heartbreaking and bewildering I've found this whole situation, but I won't.

Instead I'll focus on the positives. I have left our marital home and refound my

One of the best pieces of advice I was given, shortly after I left my ex, was to ask for some professional counselling. I was given this advice by a colleague who is also a divorcee, who had benefitted from this himself during the time of his marriage break-up. I'm lucky that I have health insurance through work so I thought I would take advantage and make an appointment with my GP.

To make this as succinct as possible - I cried all over my GP whilst explaining the situation and asking for a referral. He couldn't have been nicer, gave me the details of a psychiatrist and said he would be

 It's been on my mind now for quite a few weeks to change my name.

When I first joined Wiki I was broken, my world had fallen apart and the future was scary, very scary !!    With the help of Wiki and the wonderful people on here, it has helped me become the man I am now. A man who is happy again and has a future to look forward to and dreams to fulfil.

   We all have difficult times in our lives but we must learn from them and take the positive from them and leave the negative behind.   I can't believe some of the blogs I have read on here and what some of you have gone through, at times I