I have just left my wife of 8 years. Throughout our marriage my wife has been abusive both verbally and physically towards me. The verbal abuse is frequent (about once/week) and the physical abuse about once every 6 weeks. Last week I decided that enough was enough and (following another good kicking) told my wife that our marriage was over. I am 38 years old, living in the West.

Looking back, it amazes even me how little respect my wife gave me throughout our marriage. We have 2 lovely young children, and it was the eldest starting to ask questions that finally prompted me to leave. I

It's tough to be a single man having had to fight to be able to get married and then fight to get divorced.

The marriage

I'm a 20-something Londoner and I got married to a lady from Lahore, Pakistan in 2006 after we'd met in quite random circumstances. At the time, we were in love and my family and friends were deeply supportive of my relationship. The distance was the biggest problem and so I had to fly all my family to Pakistan so that I could get married in accordance with custom.

After having to spend thousands on the wedding and then another couple of grand to bring my wife to the UK

I got my decree absolute on the 17th April, finances were completed and he was out of my hair but still in the children's lives.

WRONG!

I got my decree absolute (which had errors), I accepted not enough money because I was backed into an impossible corner and now face putting the house up for sale in an unstable market and throwing my little bit of security down the drain.

He is not out of my hair, in fact the abuse is now virtually on a daily basis again. I guess because he can no longer control me through the FDR process he needs to gain control somewhere else.

I do not have the strength at the