Where do i go from here? i need peace, all i ask is peace.

I admit it, i admit defeat, i hold my hands up and say i did not think divorce and happy children were a warzone that cannot be penetrated until someone waves the white flag.....why do i say that.....because i have never saw my divirce or my childrens welfare as a battle or a fight to the death. I didnt think this was about point scoring or having control over the other party. I always thought it was just a way of admitting you no longer get on but still allowing the children to remain in a happy stable environment. I NOW KNOW THIS IS NOT THE CASE, I NOW KNOW THIS IS JUST A FARCE, I NOW KNOW