I am really looking for some feedback from women here (of course men who understand women can also contribute).

My wife seems to have decided that couples counselling won't help and that divorce is the route to take.

But she doesn't want to start down that route because it would be emotionally too tiring. Ok I can understand that. She has our problems plus some other family issues going on back at her parent's home.

But she doesn't want either of us to discuss it with our friends.

Now is this normal? Is it control? Is it self-protection? Is it because she actaully isn't sure?

I know you won't

What does that mean? My wife says that friends is the best we will be but says that she is too tired to deal with divorce.

Any ideas on what this means?

I am just getting too confused to understand what the message is.

All contributions welcome.

Jules

Ah well, all the best efforts seem to have come to nought. My wide and I chatted last night and she said that she could never love me again, that being anywhere close to me is just too hard for her and she could never see us being retired together. The last one caught me out (and I almost smiled) as we are both in our early 40s but I guess it was there to make a point.

So she was happy for me to take on all the domestic jobs to give her time for herself, happy for me to take the kids away so that she could have some time to sit and think and as long as she spent the requested 10 mins per day