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Mar 05
2008
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Housewife wants to go homePosted by rubytuesday in my story, moving on |
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I've spent a great deal of time over the past few months deciding where the girls and I will live once the house is sold. There are many reasons to stay where we are, but at the same time, many reasons to move on and start afresh.
I left my hometown 20 years ago, in search of brighter lights and bigger streets. But I have never really been able to settle anywhere, and feel uncomfortable in calling another place "home". My increasingly frequent trips to visit my sister, who still lives in our hometown, have made me realise that home is exactly where I left it, all those years ago. Every visit reminds me of something that has happened there. It is where I first went to school, learnt to swim, took my very first photograph, had my first kiss and my first drink in a pub. There is so much of my life tied up there, and I love going back.
Going back home wouldn't be a step back into the past, but a step forward and a new start for the girls and I. The town has changed a lot in the past 2 decades, mostly for the better.
One of the main reasons for wanting to return "home" is my sister. For most of my life, I have been fiercly independent, shrugging aside offers of help and support, especially from those that love me and want to offer thier support, not just because of my current situation, but simply because they care. It is time for me to realise that I can not do everything alone, and that accepting help does not not make me a failure.
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mike62
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Ruby, Sounds like a perfectly sensible plan to me. Get back with all that is familiar and have that support safety net close by. Not weakness or failure, just plain old common sense. But that kind of goes out of the window in these troubled times in our lives. Good call methinks ruby. Start saving the cardboard boxes! Take care, Mike |
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scottishlady
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Ruby.... I can understand exactly how you feel.... I, like you moved from my home town over 20 years ago, 'because of my STBX's work'...... now, he is gone to pastures new... I wonder if it is not time to 'return to my roots'..... I have my dad 'at home'.... he is getting on in years... fit as a fiddle mind...... I think I would like to be nearer to him than a 4/5 hour drive..... I don't think it's a step backwards at all..... a fresh start for you and your girls.... with people around them who care..... I say 'go for it' Ruby - you, like me, have nothing to lose.... |
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Fat Boy Getting Slimmer
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Home can be a good place to be. In times of upset and distress there is a lot of calm that can be found returning to familiar surroundings and more importantly the support that you can find there. Your girls will love having your sister to visit, too. I wish you a smooth move. |
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mummybear38
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Hi Ruby, Home is where the heart is !! You certainly aren't a failure and just by being able to think out of the box proves this. So many ifs, whens, whys, maybes Ruby, trust your instinct and if you don't try you will never know. You like me have wasted too many years banging your head against stone walls, just stop for a while, relax and let the warmth of your being take you to where you belong. Love Jeannie xx |
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rosiegirl
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Ruby, I can fully understand the pull of home - I have always missed mine and still call it home even though I haven't lived there for nearly 20 years. But I call other places home too - as mummyb says, home really is where the heart is. And good on you for recognizing what is important to you now - your sister etc. In the short time I have known you, I can see you are a talented lady - your photography and other creative abilities are just two examples. Keep moving forward .... | |
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