counselling update

well, i am not afraid to admit that i had huge issues dealing with my wifes affair with one of my best mates. It certainly makes you feel like a failure both in your marriage and in that friendship, however i would urge anyone who gets the opportunity to attend counselling sessions , and i know some people have to be far stronger and have to dig deeper for that stregnth if they dont get that opportunity and my hat goes off to them.what ever methods we take none of us are failures, infact we are more of a sucess than we believe and we will be successful in turning the situation around. The failures are those that hurt us, and our children if you have any. As each session ends the level of emotional outpour gets less and less and that is replaced by a growing stregnth of belief in yourself and others and that life will get better. Most of us on here have had to carry those feelings of hatred, revenge, and bitterness as part of the bagage, just learn to throwthem away and focus on the goodness and stregnth thats in all of us and you never know we all may be posting happy and successful stories on here over the coming months and years. I certainly am feeling more at ease with whats ahead and stronger with what i have to deal with.

Ricky