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Feb 26
2008
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losing my homePosted by FrankieLee in depression loneliness, breaking up, bad day |
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My in-laws phoned at 3am waking me up, looking for my husband; apparently he was supposed to be back at theirs before midnight but stayed out. At 4.30am I got a phone call from my husband asking to come home. He said he loved me, missed me, and couldn't be without me.
At 8.30am I phoned him to ask if this was still the case. He was rude, abrasive, told me he didn't love me anymore and wants a divorce.
I have the day to move out of our home. He told me that if I don't leave, he won't pay the rent, and my mother is guarantor so I have no choice. I have to leave. This is the most devastating position I could ever imagine. I've lost my husband, my dignity, and my home. The worst part is that my daughter overheard the conversation so knows she's losing her home too. I just slumped on the ground and cried with her unable to gain control. He has offered to pay the removals fee, which I thought was quite magnanimous, the arsehole.
I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm unemployed, a single mother, and homeless. I don't have a penny to my name.
He told me I'm ugly on the inside, that I've been a bad wife. Right now, I feel the lowest I think I've ever felt.
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mike62
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| February 26, 2008 | ||
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Frankie, So glad you came into the chat room and some of us were able to give you some good advice and information. It is a really bad time for you, but hopefully you know know that there is help and support available for you. Your husband is an even bigger piece of poo than I originally thought. You and your daughter deserve so much more from life than that. Be strong, hard as it is, and come back for help or a hug when you need it. You will get through this. We are all willing you on. Take care, Mike |
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Elizabeth
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| February 26, 2008 | ||
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Hello Frankie, I am very new to this site so I am not sure how it all works but you do sound very low. You say you have lost your dignity but I don't think that is the case, you have been forced into this situation and there does seem to be an underlying sense of strength coming through in your words. Could you perhaps stay a short while with your mother whilst you get yourself a bit stronger and maybe take a job? Your daughter will give you great strength just by being there with you. I do hope you feel a bit better by writing your blog and replies such as Mike's. |
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NOtia
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| March 11, 2008 | ||
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Frankie, I'm so sorry you have to go through this?I feel for you very much?I was myself in very similar situation year ago. I was very depressed and I felt like I have no place to go since I moved with my husband to other continent?far away from my family and friends? My very good friend told me that God puts on our back just as much pain as we are able to carry?and that even when we don?t see any way out of our suffering?.the way IS there and it is going to present itself sooner or later? What put me in much better place one year later? I moved out, took antidepressants, I went to the therapy, and I started to practice yoga?slowly?but I got better? Even thought now you feel like your world fall apart?the fact that you move out might be actually good for you and your daughter?beginning of better life? Be strong girl! |
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