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Mar 31
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At 2.05 am 21st March 2010 I found out my life is just one big sham
That was the minute that I found out my female intuition had been right. My husband of 21 years and 4 months has not only been cheating on me for God knows how long...but he actually 'married' this Nigerian whore sometime in the last 2 years and has an 11 or 12 year old daughter. How do I get my head round this? How do our 3 daughters get their heads round this? He does not know I am aware of this yet because I am afraid he will just cut off any financial support and disappear. This is killing me, not being able to shout and scream and tell the world what is happening to us. I am dreading that he comes home before my lawyer has everything prepared to hit the court . It is hard enough sending him emails and pretending everything is normal, when all I want to do is stab him through his heart and make him know how I am feeling. I don't know what is hurting more...that all my hopes and dreams for our future are gone...or the fact that I have been deceived all these years?
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notathaigirl
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Hi I'm gobsmacked. I'm so sorry.....little comfort I know. Even i'm having a problem getting my head around it. The rug has been literally pulled from underneath your feet. You will find the fortitude and the strength, to get through this awful situation that you have been placed in. I am aware from my own experience it takes alot out of you, having to remain nice and polite and crack on as if nothing has happened, corresponding through phone calls and emails. When all you want to do is "stab him through his heart". Keep coming on here, you will get alot of support. Even if you just want to vent your anger and frustration. Sadly we've experienced it to some degree. I hope your solicitor has everything ready for his return, to hit him where it hurts. Wishing you all the best. Notathaigirl x |
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Mitchum
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Hi, Don't know what to say! Sadly, words won't lessen your hurt, but maybe knowing that we understand and care what happens to you from here on may help you to get through this. Stick with us and let us support you through what is going to be a very emotional and upsetting time for you and your girls. It will be tiny, tiny steps to a better future for you and your girls and we will be with you for however long you wish and for however long it takes. Mitchum xx |
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supercali
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Hi Hewillpay, Your in the right place. Just a word of warning, be very careful who you tell at the moment. Trust you instincts again and read and listen to plenty of advice before making decisions. Don't forget to breathe and see that your children are protected. See you soon, take care, Supercali xx |
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JackieH
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| March 31, 2010 | ||
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((((((he willpay))))))) I am speechles and so sorry. How do they maintain this deception? My stbx found it difficult for just a few months. He thought he was being clever and successfully leading a double life but the cracks were showing. I remember the shock and pain when my suspicions were confirmed. You cannot understand how that feels unless you have experienced it. Good luck |
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Smudgy
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I really feel for you because I found out after 21 years (15 married) that hubby had a GF plus a child. Everyone's story is different but there are also common threads. I really feel for you and know what you are going through in this first stage. It is going to be overwhelming the more details you find out over this next period. Please feel free to email me if you want to take the discussion off-line. Be warned though that it might take your solicitor a while to do any paperwork and to contact him so you might find it difficult and a real strain to hold it in without telling him. I did manage to do it in my case but it is hard. |
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