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Feb 16
2008
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My Story So FarPosted by FrankieLee in my story, choosing to stay or go |
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My husband left for work on Friday morning and hasn't returned. We've been married just over a year, and although we've had tough times, I thought we would be able to make things work.
He has since contacted me and told me we're over. I've tried calling him, but he either ignores my phone calls or accuses me of being 'controlling' and that I'm 'ruining his weekend.'
I feel so lost, so confused, so hurt, and I'm trying to keep things together for our 4 year old daughter, but I know I'm going to crack.
I'm experiencing so many emotions. Resentment that he has walked out on our life and left the responsibility of our daughter solely upon myself. Anger that he's treated me in such a way. Grief at losing the man I cherish and whom I have always considered a best friend. One second I want to cry, the next I would gladly kick him.
I know it's still early days, but I'm finding it very hard to cope. I just can't believe that the man who claims to have loved me, wanted to spend his life with me, can be so cold and callous.
I'm torn between wanting him to come home, and wishing I'll never see him again. I want our marriage to be over, I can't live with a man who thinks he can treat me in such a way, but I love him with everything I have to give.
Is anyone else in a similar position? I'd like to talk to someone who is experiencing the same emotions because I feel like I'm losing my mind.
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broken1
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| February 17, 2008 | ||
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FrankieLee First of all I'm sorry you are here but welcome, You are by no means alone and there are plenty of people here who have been through what you are going through and will help and advise you all they can. It is early days for you and you will be felling every emotion there is and sometimes at the same time!! You wont get any answers straight away why he has done this and some questions you will never know the answer to, Remember the follow and you will be ok Talk to people on here and dont be shy YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME ( whatever he tells you) Stay strong for you daugther Look after yourself Dont be scared to cry We have all been where you are so until next time take care and Iook after yourself Broken1 |
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miserable
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| February 17, 2008 | ||
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FrankieLee You've come to the right place. There are many people here going through the same as you. Just knowing that has been a great solice to me, I hope it will be for you too. I have spent the last year with my emotions all over the place - one minute I love her, the next I hate her (or at least what she did). I have analysed the events leading up to our split so many times I felt I would go mad. Finding out that it wasn't just me who had been being singled out for this treatment and that maybe I didn't deserve it, has been an important realisation that would not have been possible had I not joined this site. Good Luck. Mis. |
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scottishlady
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| February 17, 2008 | ||
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FrankieLee..... I'm sorry to hear of what's happening to you..... your emotions are obviously all over the place right now - this is natural!!!!!! Take a little 'time out'.... try to calm yourself (not easy, I know)..... is there a reason why he may be 'behaving' in this way? As Broken says... you need some answers... perhaps the beginning of a new week will bring some for you - I hope so... There are lots of people who are, and have been going through similar situations to yourself... myself included... take each day as it comes.... rely on your family and friends for support... and use this site often - it was a 'lifesaver' for me when I started down this route nearly seven months ago.... The support and advice you will receive is second to none!!!! Look after yourself, and your daughter..... SL  |
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