Hi all I have somewhat prematurely updated my status to divorced to reflect the fact that I got my decree nisi two weeks ago, based on my ex-husband's adultery. Given that I didn't want to get divorced straight away, I am not sure quite what to make of it all. Having read and worried about some of the stories that I had read on Wikivorce, I almost feel lucky that I have come through the process somewhat unscathed (at least in the financial sense!) It seems that I unwittingly played a blinder by point blank refusing to divorce when I first heard of the affair - this was enough to

Ok...... reading the Bel Mooney column in the Daily Mail yesterday has finally persuaded me to cut my blogging teeth! In Bel's letter to some poor tormented soul who who was still furious at her husband leaving her nine years ago out came that line so favoured by our adulterous spouses "no marriage break-up is the fault of just one half of the couple." Well, all I can say is that I am sick of reading and hearing this rubbish. In my case, there were problems before he ran off into the sunset with his new woman, but the problems were not between us. In our case the problems were caused by us