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Mid-life crisis or serious?
My husband of 19 years asked me to split up during a drunken row on Sat night. This was not on my radar, he is 50 in April and weve booked a trip to Krakow with a gang of 12, our 20th wedding anniversary is in may and I,ve booked a 'suprise' all inclusive hol to Majorca which I was going to suprise him with on his 50th birthday. As you can see i was not planning on this split, although i cant decide if i really agree with him. He has asked me 2ce before over the years (bothy times in anger when he had had a drink) and both times the next day i asked him if he was serious when he said not at all just angry we spoke and made up. This time i've just said basically ok. we haven't really spoked about it but been pleasant and civilised, he even asked me if I wanted to go to a concert tmrw night, bought my favourite food which was ready when i came homw from wrk tnite but not talked abouit any of the issues. I haven't initiated discussions as would usually be in my charachter as totally unsure of what i want myself so i am giving me time to think too as well as him. we have had an awful 2007 , a dear aunt and a really close friend died, my 25 year old step son made a pass at me ( horrified beyond belief) and i donated a kidney to my brother in May. My brother is fab now but i cant really explain how much kidney donation is emotionally and physically draining over a year of tests and counselling beforehand (compulsary), fear , pain and elation of seeing my bro get his life back. My husband didn't even take me to the hospital or come to visit until it was over. I feel as though some of my love for him died that day as i was giving his details as next of kin after signing consent forms my mum and sis went to support me.I dont mind saying I was'bricking it' H jsut said that he thought I was loving all the attention and was being a drama queen. Clueless. Anyhow things since have not been too grand betwwen us, H is type of person to bury his head in ground, if he doesn't talk about it it hasn't happened. only it has he asked for a split, not talked about it since. I,ve just asked him what he wants to do and i am all ears if he wants to speak. I just dont know what i want myself but part of me thinks we may be better to call it a day but i also know that i would always care about him but cant bare the stress. i honestly dont think its adultary just unhappiness.
ps i have been reading this site daily and 1st started to write a blog the same day but accidentally deleted so haven't bothered till now. these are just thoughts that i hope kind of make sense as dont to me.

Jan 25

2008

mi9d life crisis por serious?

Posted by dumped2 in breaking up

Mid-life crisis or serious? My husband of 19 years asked me to split up during a drunken row on Sat night. This was not on my radar, he is 50 in April and weve booked a trip to Krakow with a gang of 12, our 20th wedding anniversary is in may and I,ve booked a 'suprise' all inclusive hol to Majorca which I was going to suprise him with on his 50th birthday. As you can see i was not planning on this split, although i cant decide if i really agree with him. He has asked me 2ce before over the years (bothy times in anger when he had had a drink) and both times the next day i asked him if he was

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