Thursday/Friday

Hi all Thursday that was a strange day it started as only a morning can when you have a houseful of hung over teenage girls. It was so good to hear the giggling and joviality back in this home it has been like a prison cell at times lately so quiet and unwelcoming. I went to the bank to get some Euros for my daughter and ran into my stbx’s cousin we chatted for a while. She is shocked didn’t know what to say at first so I just told her to say exactly what you’re thinking. That opened the flood gates. She found this whole saga obscene neither her nor her husband will visit my stbx again, I found it all rather odd talking about my wife in the middle of the bank and my stbx’s Christmas card list is shrinking by the day I genuinely find that quiet sad. I keep being told by everybody in her family “Mike you are family you must visit us anytime just the same as you do now just pop in. we will be visiting you” I say the same and I will do just that. I often wonder if my stbx realised how supportive her family were going to be towards me. I wonder if she realised how badly they would react to her. They have all been great to me from family, friends and neighbours to the good people on this site who take time off from their own problems to help others. They say you find who your friends are when you are down. I have found so many. The evening was fairly quiet until I brought my daughter home from another after school trip. We had a bit of fun then she set about cooking one of those Asda Chinese meals for two in a bag everything was going well and I went on getting ready for work. The smell of burning alerted me to something out of the ordinary. I thought I better take a look in the kitchen. It was full of smoke and the microwave was where it was coming from Switching it off I gingerly opened the door to see smooke emerging from our barbeque ribs and realising in an instant this was not normal behaviour, microwaves do not normally brown food and this was not just browned it was incinerated packaging and all. Seems she put it on for a little longer than required and forgot it’s a 900watt oven oops!! Anyway today Friday was a complete disaster I had arranged for my stbx to pop over to see me and discuss the divorce something I know I have to do and soon. I bought some donuts to go with her tea as I wanted to make it as pleasant as possible. sure enough in she came. It all started well but unfortunately this idiot spoilt it. I found myself desperately trying to control what I needed to say only to fail miserably. So lots of shouting and a bloody good lecture from me and out she went tail between her legs. Its odd though because in our twenty years it was always her with the sharp tongue, always her who liked to lecture me, always her who wanted to boss the situation. But as it has been over the last month she lost yet again. She has no answer to the truth. Today she discovered I knew a lot more than she thought I did and she didn’t like that one bit. I’m the sorry one though; very sorry because I spoilt everything I wanted to achieve today, although seeing my stbx speechless was priceless the thought of being back to square one irritates me. The donuts I bought to go with our tea will just have to accompany me to work tonight thats a shame. Mike