Getting a grip

Well it's been a week now since my wife told me IT'S OVER and there's no more trying to work things out, well it's been three mths that we've been working at it and six to eight mths for her. Basicly I've spent a week crying thinking what am I going to do, why has she done this, what's wrong with me, had I done anything, why, why, why. We had a chat last night and I told her how hard I was finding it to let our marriage go, I sort of knew in the back of my mind that this would happen. The kids have accepted whatever happens, happens, I think because they haven't seen any phisycal change as no-one has mooved out it hasn't sunk in with them yet. Well we talked a lot had a drink together, it was relaxing, everything I was feeling came out I told her all, obviously I told her I didn't want her to go, why is she doing this, what have I done wrong, etc, etc, she didn't say a great deal but I suppose it's in her mind, it was her decision for this to happen and she's already comeround to the fact. Well it has been said we're living together still, that way the kids are not going to be upset, I told her I'm going to find it hard on days and to bare with me, I've also made up my mind to sort myself out, be strong because honostly I'm fed up of just crying every day I'm not saying I'm not going to cry but I'm just going to sort myself out. We're still getting on fine, we still sleep in the some bed, we still talk and have meals as a family, the money is still shared at the moment, I suppose everything's as normal for now, just untill we sort things out, and we're going to talk as we do, I think that I can accept that for now and if she's that desparate for it to end she'll have to start the ball rolling and do whatever needs to be done. I'm not running round sorting stuff out for her anyway I wouldn't really know where to start. I'm just going to take it a day at a time and get myself together, think of the kids and look forward for myself and just do it. If anyone is going through a simular sort of thing, yes I know, but at the end of the day it's happened, if you focus, it does feel good, well it feels a damm sight better than staying in all day, crying thinking what am I going to do, I don't expect that it's going to be easy I'm just going to accept it, sort it out, take it a day at a time, it can only get better and I'm just going to get a grip.