My wife and my exbest mate

Day 14, Its been a little bit quieter over the last couple of days. Received a fairly unpleasant phone call yesterday from stbx coming out with all sorts of threats about me having to pay to keep her and stuff like that. In the end I hung up. Seem to do that alot these days. I have decided not to discuss anything financial with her apart from the actual sale of our house. I wont talk about how the equity gets divided. Thats what I am paying my sol for. I told my wife this morning that I will not fight with her about money. I said anything financial can be handled by my sol and she would need to deal with her. My stbx is the mother of my children and I cannot see any good that will come out of me having big rows with her. It sounds like she has now taken legal advise as well as her tone was quite different this morning. I am more worried now about exbest mates wife. She rang me today to see if I could remember if my stbx had been away from the home for a couple of nights a few months ago as she wanted to know if my wife and her husband had been together then. I couldnt really talk at the time as I was at work. I called her back later and had to leave a message. I think it comes down to the fact we know they have been having an affair for a few months now. They have told us it started in september but thats probably another lie. In the end they did what they did. Although part of me would like to know when it started this wont change anything. Both me and the wife of exbest mate need to get on with rebuilding our lives. This web site and some special people on it have helped me realize that. As you can tell I am feeling a bit more positive tonight. I think I will have to chalk up today as a better day. I hope to have a few more of them.