Highs and Lows of Highland Lass

Posted by rubytuesday in feeling down, bad day

Well, here we are, Monday morning again. Life is relentless, it just keeps on happneing, whether I am ready for it or not. I am so tired all the time, well, I guess that could be down to not sleeping properly! If it wasn't for my girls, I doubt I would want to get up each morning. Some days are good, but others, well, you know...... I go to see a solicitor tommorow for the first time. I need to get some legal advice on the house, ie can he bully/force me to sell and move out before I am ready to. I am also going to petion for divorce, the marraige is over, and has been for a long time, so there is no point in putting things off any longer. I just want to get on with my life. I really need a huge hug, from a man. Not s*x, just to be held all night and feel safe. Maybe I will advertise in the local paper for a bid strong man who will hold me all night but not try to get his leg over! Will I get any genuine replies? Doubt it! He has texted me a list of items he wants to come and get, his things so I have no problem with that, I even offered to get them ready for him, and boxed up, I just don't want to see him. I have decieded that i need to reasonalbe at all times during this divorce, esp. when I don't feel like being so! Anyway, time to shower, dress, iron kids uniforms, lunchboxes, breakfasts, get schoolbags ready, find missing gym shoe. As I said, life is relentless!

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ChrisM said:

January 28, 2008
		Highland lass. Life does go on and the relentless journey in itself is a comfort. But you are not alone. You have kids. Some of us dont have that. Many people that split up lose everything. Kids, home, family and hugs the lot. Some people get sick and are alone. I always think of tankerman (used to be on here) he was getting treatment for cancer and he was living in a bedsit and being divorced because his wife didnt want him no more. So many people live like that. So spare a thought. I do when it all gets too much. When things are not going my way tankerman is sitting in a bedsit in pain and alone. I think of him. Divorce is all about loss and failure. But it has its upsides. But the main upsides for me is that no one can use, abuse and or hurt me no more. No one is going to keep me up all night and I get to sleep in a bed in my own room. I have a wardrobe for my clothes and they are clean and dry. Not stinking of mold and damp. I dont have to get them out the night before so that they dry out. Loads of upsides. Made me smile that you are thinking of advertising for a hug. Would they expect a jump? Not all men are the same. There is no typical male as there is no typical female. We are all people and we are all different. I love the difference between men and women. But women have brought so much misery and happiness in my life. I almost forgot There ya go and I never tried it on. Chris.

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mike62 said:

January 28, 2008
		Highland Lass, Even men crave just a hug when the chips are down - It's a lonely world on your own, when your family has disappeared, day to day. My kids hugs are extra special since separation, because they are unconditional. It is really hard, but as you will see so often on here, it does get easier. I know exactly what you mean that the world keeps turning, despite the fact that your world has turned on it's head. Take it day by day. Be good to yourself. Keep the faith! Take care, Mike

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nowitsmylife said:

January 28, 2008
		Hi Highlandlass I know just how lonely life can be and how you miss that close contact with somebody you trust. All the sleepless nights? spent worrying about everything that?s going on. My daughter gives me lots of hugs as I do her we both are affectionate people and need that reassuring contact a big hug gives. I too miss not being able to feel the warmth of a woman in my bed. Its not sexual it?s much more than that, though that might sound strange to hear a man say. Maybe It?s just someone being there to hold on to when you need them, that little bit of reassurance that everything will be ok. Call me a big soppy bugger but that?s me. Remember, Not all men put sex at the top of the agenda some of us are genuine people who care about others. Take care; good luck with the solicitor?s, I?m sure you will soon find that big strong fella who will make you happy. Mike

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