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Sep 01
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My daughter and I have started to become closer again in the last few weeks since the ex got a gf.
Yesterday and today we have been out looking at new furniture for my house in Stockport.
I went outside to speak to my bf on the phone at lunchtime and when I came back in a row had started between my daughter and her father. I didn't say anything until she went upstairs and all I said was she doesn't want you going into her place of work again and up setting her as one of her collegeues had to come and ask her to do a job for her to stop you up setting her on Saturday. He went mad at me and then went upstairs and started on at her. I then said please leave her alone as she has to go to work in a while.
He them proceeded to tell me I had ruined everyones lives by wanting out of the marriage. ok I admit I'm not perfect but by why sholud I stay in an unhappy marriage just for him. You only get one go at this life and I have put an awful lot into this marriage and got nothing but hassle back, now I want to be happy.
I have been to see my sol who has advised me to get a sol for my daughter just in case she needs to get an injunction out against her father. I never meant all this to happen and have even thought about staying just for some peace but I really can't do that.
I just hope everyone will forgive me one day.
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Ephelia
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| September 01, 2009 | ||
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You don't need forgiving! I've read your blog and posts and you sound like a kind and thoughtful mother... don't let this man make you or your daughter feel bad because you really don't deserve it. You do deserve to be happy and my fingers are crossed for you. Take care. xx | |
julesm
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| September 01, 2009 | ||
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Hi Bren What an awful thing to say - that you had ruined everyones lives by wanting out of the marriage - but I have had this very same thing hurled at me! I couldnt stay in the marriage, and didnt. My ex had everything coming to him by the way HE behaved. He only has himself to blame now that things are goig my way for a change. You deserve to be happy - dont we all? These ex husbands just do not want to take the blame for anything do they? Best Wishes Jules x |
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NellNoRegrets
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| September 02, 2009 | ||
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Brensham People are responsible for their own actions. If their lives are "ruined" that's down to them. Life isn't about nothing nasty or unpleasant happening - its about learning how to cope with and deal with it when they do. Personally I'd not bother to talk to your ex at all. Support your daughter if she asks you to, but let her sort out her own relationship with her father. While you are involved he can just blame you for everything. |
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