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Aug 21
2009
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THINKING OF THE PAST LIFEPosted by nibor in love, happiness, accepting its over |
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Hi Wiki
Sat here thinking of my past not geting upset or crying or anything but thinking!!.
Looking back in life somtimes makes you wonder WHY!!!!
everything that happens to they say is for a reason !!!
Well I left my first wife of 23yr marrige for another woman and then left her because we kind of were like chalk & cheese Or different sides of a coin which ever way you want to put.
Meet my secound wife and as all that read my blogs will no she left me at xmas 2008
Now i sit here Thinking is there reason for things???????
My first wife has a good man looking after her now
My partner has a good man looking after her now
My wife (soon ex) has a good man looking after her now
So i think that must say that i,m not a good man or a bad man.
maybe I,m here on this mortal earth to help woman if my life find there true man ??
So i look on my life as a helping hand !!!
to help others find happyness and for me just to go on with what I have left
Maybe soon I will find someone to help me find my ture woman in my live or matbe not!!.
For now I will go on and on till the day i find my happyness.
Boring Blog I no so will say sorry for it now and hope you all find you happyness in your lives.
I will carry on with mine for now
Thank you
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nature girly
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| August 21, 2009 | ||
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Seems crazy doesn't it, that there are so many people in search of true happiness in love. Maybe it is society that is making us feel unrest and we have lost direction because of divorce being what people do so readily these days, like shopping for a new car. Being on here you see that fortunately there are people looking for future committment, hope that that brings you renewed hope nibor. |
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nomoretrust
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| August 22, 2009 | ||
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I probably shouldn't respond but I had to say my first thoughts in reading your blog was, why? "karma, you get what you reaped." (I know I'm not being fair. I don't know what your first marriage was like. For all I know she was an axe wielding terror, but you cheated. That was what I saw first. And I am one of those women whose husband has left me after 21 years. I'm devastated and confused. I worked hard and put up with all sorts of things to try and build a life with this man and he attacks me and leaves? What justice is that? I met with a lawyer today who had me crying in the hall later basically because he said I could expect little if anything because I hadn't worked outside the home in 15 years. But I'd worked like a fiend to get my husband to the place he is today. I wrote resumes, combed papers, contacted head hunters, pressed his suits, waited, conjoled, got upset when he was turned down and celebrated with him when he found something. I would have taken a bullet for this man without thought. I hope you are still reading because I too was a cheater, but with my first husband and I shouldn't throw stones in my glass house. I was married young the first time and I married because I knew I liked the guy and thought I could 'grow' to love him but it never happened. I, like you, became infatuated with a hot looking guy. At the time I was in my 20's, fit as fiddle and because my husband hadn't been so great in the bedroom my eyes and eventually other things, wandered. When the act finally happened I knew I had gone horribly wrong. The man I was married to was a good caring person and he really loved me and this was the way I repaid him...cheating. I told him I wanted a divorce. I never told him what I had done. I would never have tried to hurt him but I did and big time. It literally broke his heart but I knew he should find someone who would love him the way he deserved to be loved. A year or so later I met another man, fell madly in love and thought I'd found my soul mate. I never once looked at another man during the entire 24 years we have been together. It was like that other me had died and I wasn't much fond of her to begin with. My ex husband floundered for a few years then found a very good woman who has given him two sons. He couldn't be happier and I am happy for him. I guess I reaped what I sowed. I was a cheater and now I'm the one broken hearted, just as my first husband was hurt. But I will not go back to that woman with a roving eye. And right now I wouldn't touch a supermodel with billions of dollars with a ten foot pole. The idea of a man is leaving me with a bad taste in my mouth. Hopefully I'll get over that, but it won't be soon. Maybe both our lessons should be to go out there and sin no more. Don't try to become a better person in order to meet others, but be a better person and friend no matter what. When/if the right one comes along for you it will happen without you trying. That's the oddest thing, when we try to find it, it eludes us. When we accept and wait, it usually happens on its own. Either that or we grow old, wrinkle up into prunes and just as we breath our last breath, Mr/Mrs. Right will come along with flowers sent to us by our ex's. LOL what a kick in the pants that would be, huh?  |
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nibor
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| August 22, 2009 | ||
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nomretrust I fully agree with you thats why I now belive out of all this I feel a better person has the last thing i want to do in life now is cause upset to any one or break any one heart any more thanks for you comment I do belive what gos around comes around. |
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hurtandsad
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| August 23, 2009 | ||
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I find it hard to understand how anyone could have a relationship with anyone who has already cheated on someone? Having respect for yourself is so important |
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