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Jan 11
2008
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Naming the other personPosted by phoenix1 in her new man |
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My wife has now left me no choice but to file for divorce, but what benefits if any, is there to naming the man she had the affair with?
I am asking as I have agreed not to tell my stepson that the reason we are splitting is she had an affair and my stbx does not want her ''lovers'' name on it in case her son ever finds out.
Advice please??
PS thanks for all the help guys this site is keeping me going at the moment.
Thanks Again
Broken1
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Fat Boy Getting Slimmer
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| January 11, 2008 | ||
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I think the general advice that I have read is don't mention the third party. It only causes aggro and if W is happy and will agree to it with no name then go with that. If you name them I think the divorce has to be served to them and if they don't respond it just causes more delays and complications. This site seems to cover it in nice clear English; http://www.terry.co.uk/divorce1.html Also look at the Resouces Page on this site. Good Luck |
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ChrisM
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| January 11, 2008 | ||
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AFAIK there is nothing wrong with naming the other person but if you do they have to be served the pettion and I think (but not sure) that they have to acknowledge the service. Filing for adultary is a no brainer. Its just a little box U tick and saves all the UB reasons. There is no disgrace here at all. Its private and no one needs to know. I personaly would not name the third party. If adultary is an issue (and it is with some people) then do UB. Its easy and U dont need war and peice. Remember what the end game is here. To get them to return the pettion. Thats the hard bit. U dont want to be cross pettioned and you want to get your div. Hope this helped. Chris. |
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davej1808
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| January 17, 2008 | ||
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I have just found out my wife has been having an affair with my best friend. I am at the beginning of this processes and clearly you are a lot further along. I may feel bitter at the moment so there for not thinking clearly but I know that right now I would name the person on that form just so they could be reminded of their contribution to the damage they have helped to cause. These people have done something wrong by having an affair with a married person so why should they not know that their actions have consequences? But, like I said, I am in a dark place right now so probably not very objective. I am sure you will make the right decision for you. Good luck. | |
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