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Jan 09
2008
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My first stepPosted by nowitsmylife in dealing with solicitors, anger hate revenge |
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Ok today at 10.30 with a belly full of butterflies the size of water buffalo I walked into a solicitor’s office feeling very uneasy alone unsure what to expect I sat down and waited. This was my first step it’s taken me about 10 days to calm down enough, gather my thoughts, put the hurt to one side and decide what to do next. Now it’s my turn my wife told me she wanted unreasonable behaviour But No not a hope in hell! Its adultery it’s quicker and it’s true to the facts. Perhaps I’m just on a good day I don’t know but I walked out feeling better much better than I have for a week or so. Yes she gets her half but that’s it, about 4 months if not contested and it’s done and dusted. To be honest I can’t wait to sell the house move out and be me again. Me, that that poor broken hearted guy from last week. Me, the guy who last week could see no future, on the mend, on the up
20 years of marriage and she wants to be friends Ha yea right sorry but I haven’t been sleeping with the guy next door for six months, I’m easy going, a very forgiving trusting guy but after what she has done to me and the six months of her lying and deceitfulness ? No I want friends I can trust, People I can rely on, people who won’t stab me in the back and she is not one.
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couki
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| January 10, 2008 | ||
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You will see as time goes by things getting better. Remember not to do things out of anger as we tend to make the wrong decisions then. I am in the same boat as you although my husband has had several affairs. Seeing the solicitor did help but now after a while after all the anger has settled I just wish him happiness. The focus is on my wounded heart and how I will heal with my kids. That is the difficult part as we are so hurt you find it difficult to trust or even think of another relationship, at least that is where I am now. I noticed in your earlier blog you talked about forgiveness, well forgiveness the way I see it is a healing tool for myself not for him. Always keep this at the back of your mind, people who commit adultry almost always suffer from low self esteem. Its not about you its about them. | |
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