|
Dec 28
2007
|
 |
Got the post today, an event which I have now become to dread. The first letter was from the Legal Commission with a new funding certificate which now includes assistance to file for a Non-Molestation Order. On the downside I should not have been rejected for funding the first time and my x2b shouldn't abuse me so that I feel the need to get a Non-Molestation Order but hey, that is life, and something I seem to be getting used to.
Just have to wait until the 2nd January, 2008 until the solicitors re-opens after their xmas break. Nothing is ever done quickly where divorce etc. is concerned, I am gradually learning that fact.
Need to wait for the courts to re-open as well to see what is happening as far as beeing granted a Nisi, another stumbling block; as the judge is questioning the grounds of Unreasonable Behaviour (this is my UB which my x2b cited in his cross-petition) ie me being messy and not doing my x2b's laundry (what about him helping to raise his 5 lovely children). I have been warned that if the Judge doesn't agree then I may have just wasted the last 6 months and will have to petition him again with the original petition on the Grounds of UB on his part.
I have to believe that 2008 is going to be a positive year for me and the children and that by christmas next year we may finally be able to put this whole sorry saga to the back of our minds.
I do have to accept that my wish may not come true if I take him to court for a Defined Contact Order, as I am sure the divorce will not get signed off until the care of the children has been finalised.
I have to move on from the abusive relationship that defined my marriage, which is hard as the abuse continues. I need to know why I let myself be abused for so long and why he continues to abuse me now. I need answers but I know I may never get them.
2008 is going to be a weird year I guess, but hey it can't get much worse than the year 2007, CAN IT?
Show/Hide comments
ChrisM
said:
| December 29, 2007 | ||
 |
IF. None of us know whats round the corner. I think you will get some good news soon. Just keep your chin up. Good times are just round the corner. Your future is so bright U gota where shades. C | |
| Votes: +0 |
report abuse
vote down
vote up
|
sexysadie
said:
| December 29, 2007 | ||
 |
Hi, I think the most important thing is for you to all move on from the abuse. As you say, it's difficult when he continues to do it, but at least now you are naming it as abuse and that is a big step forward in my book. It's good news that you now have legal aid for the non-molestation order. Getting that will be a big step forward. You may never know why you let the abuse go on for so long but it's clear why he continues to abuse you: it's because he wants to stay in control of you and by leaving him you have made that much harder for him. A non-molestation order will make it even harder and you much stronger. Expect him to fight back, though. Abusers find it very hard to give up their power. Good luck, Sadie |
|
| Votes: +0 |
report abuse
vote down
vote up
|
Show/Hide comment form
