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Dec 18
2007
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Well 5 weeks have now passed and nothing has changed she still being a b***h hoped for better but really didnt expect anything less bit of a wake up call i suppose. feeling a little stronger in myself which is good and trying to focus on matters at hand. Found out over the last few weeks who my true friends are and the pretenders. glad i had the support. Still feeling lonely but i guess that will pass in time. No interest in Christmas at all as I doubt I will see my son i can only hope. Thing is she now trying to make me homeless and dont know were i stand on that one. Rented property my sole name on tenancy agreement as i was a single parent when we met. She was in rent arrears with her old place so give it up and moved in with me then I paid off her arrears over time. Should have known better but love makes you do reckless things never again. Just want to get christmas out of the way and start fresh into 2008 i hope its a better one than 2007.
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| December 19, 2007 | ||
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Hi, It's a difficult time of year and you can only do what you can do.. You are right about knowing who your friends are but give yourself the opportunity to meet up with them..you are allowed to. Everything is so raw at the moment but please believe me it improves. The only suggestion at this stage is work on maintaining contact with your Son..go for the amicable friendly approach, suggest a day and see how it pans out. Please start at the basics...don't rush off to Solicitors see what you can organise before you get to that point. Get advice about your housing issue..you need to know where you stand..it may be a worry off your mind or an issue that you need to deal with..let us not forget she left..you are within your rights to remain in the home, but she may also have rights? make a call to Shelter, I have found them very helpful or pop into your local CAB with the tenancy agreement..they will work with the facts on paper only. So in a nut shell..leave it to the New Year..but you can do two simple things this week that may break the back of a lot of worries. A wise old owl on this forum gave me the advice, start with the basics draw up a list and tick them off as you achieve them.. Our heart and brain beat each other up in the early days..we still care for the X2B and want to work out some fairness in it all..as if we are still planning our lives together..in a way this will go on because of your Son..but you need to look at your own wants and wishes...again she left, she has her own wants and wishes and will inevitably plan her life to suit herself..the hard fact is you will not be included. Say the word amicable..it is one that does not roll out easily..just as it is hard to remain amicable but it has gotten me through to month 7, sure you learn to back down, re-arrange a demand, present it differently or even compromise. I have a life with my children and my X2b has his..it's all ad hoc but it works for us. I have housing issues too, but I know where I stand and am prepared for the worst case scenario..but it does not worry me today because I have a plan to follow. Good luck..keep blogging..it keeps you sane!! Sals45 |
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