Thank you to everyone who left comments on my previous blog regarding my options relating to the financial settlement.

I have spent a great deal of time thinking about what my options are, and in short, they are very few! However, I have had to weigh up what is more important to me - money or closure. Closure wins, hands down. I knew that if I fought out a settlement, then the closure I seek would become further and further away from me. For me, what is important is closing this chapter, a rather unpleasant chapter, of my life and looking forward to a new life. I have written to my X2B

Well, the  nightmare that is the financial negotiations has started. Last week, I received a copy of the letter my x2b’s sols sent to mine, in which my offer of a clean break was turned down flat - and instead a less than fair (and acceptable) offer was made by x2b. I wasn’t surprised at this, it was to be expected, but I still got annoyed by it. Nice to know that despite all his unreasonable behaviour, mental abuse, and controlling behaviour, he still feels that he is in a position to call the shots.

For me, the realisation that the marriage had been dead for some years and that I could no

We often seek answers to some of the questions that life throws at us.  We feel that if we have an explanation for events that have taken place in our lives, then we will understand why they have happened to us. Sometimes, however, there are no answers, they just simply aren’t there to be found. That is the time to accept that we can not explain certain events, and leave them in the past. .

I have believed for a long time, that what has happened in the past, should always remain there. There is no point dragging your entire emotional baggage around with you, year after year, firstly you will