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Nov 22
2007
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It hurts so much !!Posted by moonstar04 in dealing with emotions, children, bad day |
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Ok I knew the divorce regime would not be easy,but I failed to understand how much it would hurt!!.......................... No one tells you that do they??
Today another flaming letter from my solicitor informing me x is amending the arrangements for our children we had previously agreed ourselves.
Now he is stating he is the perfect father, of course he is in his eyes. He is not a bad father don't get me wrong but could do better. However just starting to do better after 14 years with our son is not good enough unless of course you are acting on advice from a solicitor!!
What worries me now is what he is trying to achieve with it all. We both want shared care of our children, does this new change of direction from him mean that he is going for full residency?
I never thought I could have it inside me to hate anyone it is not a word I use lightly or even like. But I have to say this morning I felt nothing but hate for the man I used to love, the man who is the father of my children.
Thought I was done crying yet still more tears leak away from my eyes uncontrollably, will the hurt ever go away. Will we ever be able to get on with our lives on a neutral ground that leaves our children happy safe and secure. Or is this just the begining of what now appears to be a nightmare that is going to wrentch us apart to total destruction.
God give me strength!! cos I need it x
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Specialdad
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| November 22, 2007 | ||
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Hang in there. You will find more strength inside you then you ever knew you had.  |
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taylr14
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| November 22, 2007 | ||
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I feel for you - my exs latest comment - fi I contact hm about seeing his kids he'll go to the police for harassment! It is hard to see the hurt we do to each - but I have been told by trusted friends it does get better... we all just ahve to hope so. Thinking of you. Deep breath and chin up! |
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sexysadie
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| November 22, 2007 | ||
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Just hang on in there. If your son is 14 then the court will expect him to decide where he lives, and most kids that age want to be based in one household where their friends know where they are. If you have other kids, bear in mind that courts don't like to split siblings. You may have to fight a bit but I don't think he will win now. Teenagers are not daft and know when parents are just trying to curry favour. Presumably he can't just amend the arrangements unilaterally, anyway; they would have to be agreed with you. Sadie |
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