........writing emails that are devoid of emotion and are functional.

This is a skill I've learnt that I figured I'd share. So you get an email that has a bomb-shell in it, like ‘I'm taking the kids out of school to go to X's' or ‘I didn't tell our daughter I had a boyfriend I said I'd been out to dinner with someone'.

These are usually reactionary and if unreasonable if any normal person was being objective.

It's the stuff ‘they' think is OK to drop on your because ‘they' are self centred and really only care about themselves. Six months ago that would have led me to leave a ranting phone

Offer of mediation turned down on advice from her lover. Offer of a separation agreement withdrawn when I found out about him and her despite him being in a relationship (they couldn't wait).  I rang him and like the cowward he is he never tried to defend it. Started divorce proceedings on Valentines Day got Absolute in September.

Consent agreement signed off and some equity released. Her lever ‘I'll move the girls away rather than relent and lose the house' my lever was her guilt and destrying her creditabilty and reputation as a 'nice

You hate me

I loved to you totally and without condition

We were equals in everything

I invested so much of myself in us

You've taken my girls away from me

You put yourself first and not the children

You are selfish and you lied

You broke promises to all of us, you choose when to tell the truth and what promises you'd keep

You did this to your first husband

You never tried to make it better

You pushed the buttons in me

You watched me fall and did nothing

You broke my heart

You destroyed my dreams

You had your head turned

You were weak

You fucked someone else

You twist the knife

You have no integrity