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Mar 14
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My wife told me last Sunday night that she was finding it difficult to look at me, as she apologised on the phone for being uncivil when she's at my house. I didn't understand what she meant by it, but it left me strangely calm.
On Tuesday night, she called and asked to speak to me. She was going out that evening, but wanted to come in for a chat. My heart started racing, thinking this was the divorce papers on the way, and at least she was good enough to hand them to me herself rather than them arriving by post.
She's volunteered to come to counselling with me - she said, we both know where it will end, but we can flog it til it's dead. And now we have an appointment next Thursday with a marriage guidance counsellor - am desperately trying to keep a lid on my hope, but it's hard. I just hope that we can talk, understand why we came apart and why I was unfaithful (my own counselling is helping with that though), and maybe even reconcile. I'm terrified, as if this doesn't work we will divorce, but at least she's prepared to maybe talk and give it another chance.
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julesm
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| March 14, 2009 | ||
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Hi David Its good that you are at least giving counselling a shot. My husband wouldnt even consider it, said he didnt need it! I thought that a bit arrogant to say the least. Wishing you all the best, whatever way it turns out. Jules |
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siriusB
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| March 14, 2009 | ||
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Hi David, It certainly worth giving a go, and it's good you partner wants to try to. My personal experience with Relate wasn't particularly good though - and i would go as far to say as it was instrumental in the end of our marriage but that's just my experience. Just be open and honest. Hx |
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Heath
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| March 15, 2009 | ||
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Hi David Hope it goes well for you & your wife and I urge you both to commit to counselling, as divorce can be devastating, and if you can avoid it, then do. However, like SiriusB, I had a bad time with Relate, as the counsellor had her own agenda, and basically told my STBX how to successfully leave me. My STBX even agreed. Had the counselling been more positive, I think we could have avoided the mess we're now in. So, whilst the counselling may be uncomfortable for you, and rightly won't go all your way, if you feel undue bias against you, then speak out. Good Luck Pal Heath |
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