I was struck, whilst reading a recent blogs, (and thanks always for the support i get from you), that we see the same arguments again and again, from both sides... Maybe we have ex-partners from the same breakup talking about how they feel to us, and we sympathise and offer advice and support to them both. That is right and proper, if only they (we) could talk to each other with the same honesty and openess!

My own experience shows me that TBX will use the children to hurt me, over and over, and my love for them means that i will take it, over and over. Just maybe, she is one of the bloggers,

Been sometime since i wrote last, but here i am again. Found out from school that son #1 may need an operation, and is in a bit of a bad way. that's right, from the school!

so, i rang TBX for some more info, and got a load of nonsense about if i'm not there why should she tell me anything? If i can't be bothered to see my boy etc etc etc, the same old nasty manipulative crap that she always comes out with when she's trying to score little points against the world. i asked why she didn't tell me, she said that i didn't answer my phone and she refuses to leave a message. so i reminded her that

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For those of you that remember, TBX kicked my quiet, gentle, funny 14 yo son out of FMH in January, and i've had him with me ever since, trying to mend him. holidays, geckos, lady gaga music, new school (finally he's settling in!)

Since then, TBX has made no requests to see him, doesn't want to know. He calls his mum occasionally, but then says that "he doesn't know why he feels the need to speak to her". It breaks my heart everytime.

She is so nasty about him,  but he still keeps calling her, it makes me angry that she is so mean to him, and also afraid that he wants to go back, even