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Jan 26
2009
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Very sad childrenPosted by bertie670 in moving on, children, child contact residency |
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Both children feel 'homesick' and I think rejected by their mother. They spent the day with her on Sunday, mainly watching TV apparently but tonight 9 yr old quite upset at bedtime. I had the same with 11yr old over the weekend.
Realisation has dawned that this is where we are and their mummy through her selfishness has really made life very hard for them. Although I know that what I am doing is the right thing and that they could not have realistically have lived with her at the moment it still feels dreadful to have had to do this.
Of course with the current economic climate and with mega legal bills and the cost of house moving it is not even as if I can treat them to much. I just hope in time they will look back and realise whay I did this. I also wonder if it were the other way round and they were only seeing me every other weekend would they feel as 'abandoned'?
Lots of questions and a little guilt at the moment.
Ex apparently enjoying a life of freedom - trips to the US and now sailing in the Caribbeen to look forward to. Oddly enough I don't feel at all jealous just sad that the new bloke and material things are more important to her than her children.
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Elle
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| January 27, 2009 | ||
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((((((((((((((bertie and children))))))))))))))))) I do so hope this woman gets a grip before she has done too much damge. What a wonderful man and father you are. Elle x |
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Claymic78
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| January 27, 2009 | ||
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{{{bertie}} your kids will realise that you are only trying to do what is best of them. I hope that now you three can start building up your lives again. I can imagine that feely completely hurt by their mother's behaviour, but at least they have your love and the security you are providing. you are doing well Bertie...hang in there! |
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gaynor53
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| January 28, 2009 | ||
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Hello Bertie - dont worry about treating them to much - Im sure they will enjoy little things. Just love them and reassure them that you are there for them . They may go thru a stage of being angry with you - that seems to be a part of it all for some. Also sometimes they can be a bit insensitive. Hang on in there - you sound like a good dad. Also give yourself some small treat - you deserve it. Keep posting on wiki - we are all there for you. hugs from Gaynor | |
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