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Jan 24
2009
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Thought I ought to let you know what happened yesterday.
Despite efforts to try and avoid a full hearing ex was determined to have her say and persisted in her demand that the children reside with her and see me 1 w/e a fortnight.
It was all rather uncomfortable as she made a bit of a fool of herself but got herself into a situation where what she was saying was really not helping her case. At the lunch break the judge strongly advised both counsel to take instruction - apparently his way of telling her counsel to get her to think again. So over lunch she conceded residence to me and then tried for almost 50-50 contact.
Final upshot was a number of quite damning findings (for her) and the judge ordered the children reside with me, they see their mother every sunday, every 4th saturday and one evening a week for 3 hours. She cannot drive them and must not drink during contact or for 6 hours before.
Its a hollow victory really. I feel very sad for the children and for ex somehow. Tonight daughter has been down 4 times as she cannot sleep and is really quite upset - homesick I think but doesn't understand it all. Can't see why she won't be going out anywhere tomorrow with Mum and it is really difficult to explain.
This is unlikely to be the end as cafcass have to do a s7 report (which we asked for at the original hearing in September). Children not too happy at ongoing involvement of the courts etc but no choice really. Just hope that ex sees what she is doing and gets some help - only time will tell.
I feel much more drained by the whole thing than I expected to. It is going to take time to get past all this. Steady day tomorrow!
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Claymic78
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| January 25, 2009 | ||
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hey Bertie Well the first battle is won but i can understand the whole hollow victory. what you are doing is to protect your kids so you should be proud of being so strong for them. Hopefully your ex will seek help and try to get better. It must be very hard on the kids, after all she is their mother, but i am sure that you are going to provide a stable environment and they will realise in time that you acted for their own good. of course it is draining....i think you should make sure to take some time out for yourself to relax and recover. still a big pat on your back bertie....hang in there claudette x |
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saffron1968
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| January 25, 2009 | ||
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(((((((((((Bertie)))))))))))))) You are doing a great job and coping very well. Saffy xxx |
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